I am often asked what kinds of issues I help people with as a life coach. Here I expand on a selection of common challenges and offer some insights and tips that help.
STRESS AND ANXIETY
Stress and anxiety are two of the most common issues women struggle with. The problem is that we are so good at coping we often carry on with our lives until we hit a wall.
If you are living with constantly high levels of stress it will take its toll on your health, your sleep, your spirits, and your ability to connect with others. For some, it can lead to midlife crisis. For others an overhanging sense of sadness, intolerable anxiety and tooth-grinding at night.
Over the years I have developed a number of tools that soothe anxiety and neutralize stress. Once you learn these tools you have them for life.
Learning how to have a peaceful mindset is a great gift for yourself.
You are not alone, I know so many women who cope with stress and anxiety. Women are very good at coping, but at what cost? You don’t need to continue to live this way.
For help with stress and anxiety contact me
There are many different kinds of job transition. It can be our choice or forced upon us. Either way, you need to get clear on your values, strengths, character and skill-set and how best to apply them to something new.
We spend much of our lives in one form or another in the workplace. It is a hugely important arena for our sense of self and our overall happiness. If your work doesn’t align with what you love doing and what you are good at that’s a problem.
The world around us is changing fast and has led to a huge shift in the kinds of jobs needed, required and desired. It is a time of great opportunity but as yet there is no road-map that will guide you through it.
Coaching gives helps you get clear on your dream job. It gives you confidence, boosts your inner resources, and helps keep you focused each step as you move forward to success.
When looking to make a job transition there are some tried and trusted ways to ace it:
Identify clearly your unique strengths and abilities and learn how to leverage them
Get really clear on your goal
Fire up your motivation and confidence
Give you the tools you need to remove obstacles
Structure a path forward, keep you on track and support you all the way
“In our time working together I managed to re-balance my crazy sleep-deprived stressful life and rediscover who I was. I faced down my fears and switched to a job I love.”
There are points in one’s life that are pivotal. The decision to stay in your marriage or get divorced is one of them.
Making the decision to stay in a marriage or leave are both big decisions that have an impact many lives. Of all the reasons to choose to partner with a life coach, I would put this one right up there. Having an outside perspective who can help you unlock the answers you need to reach the right decision for you is invaluable not only for you but for everyone involved.
There comes a time in many long-term relationships and marriages when values are no longer shared and friction builds up to an intolerable level. You become faced with deciding to recommit and work on the marriage or divorce.
If the decision is to recommit then there is an opportunity to take this relationship to a whole new level.
If the decision is to divorce there are ways of navigating it that can ease the process and transform your life for the better.
This time of transition, difficult though it is, can lead to finding your unique voice in the world.
Some of the most common challenges I have helped people in this situation are:
How to come to a decision on whether to stay or leave
Recommiting and firing new life into the marriage
Find a compassionate way of ‘uncoupling’
Taking care of the kids’ needs as well as your own
Support through the process of divorce itself
How to transition to a new and exciting life with strong relationships with yourself and others
Sustaining your confidence through the inevitable ups and downs
How to co-parent in times of divorce
Coaching is a tremendous resource for someone at a pivotal point in their relationship. You are no longer alone in this. I will support you through your journey.
Please contact me for a free assessment of how coaching could help you.
As Tony Robbins once said, “Most people have no idea of the giant capacity we can immediately command when we focus all our resources on mastering a single area of our lives.”
Achieving sustained focus is a struggle for so many it is almost pandemic. Some of us just seem predisposed to succumb to multiple distractions. For others, it is a question of not having mastered techniques to combat the ever powerful, all-reaching tentacles of social media and technology which compete for our attention.
There are many wonderful qualities that you alone possess, even though you lack focus at times. You are great at coming up with alternative solutions, fabulous at generating ideas, you can brainstorm…with yourself…for hours! As Seneca said, “To be everywhere is to be nowhere.” When pulled in every direction you stay in the same spot. Achieving focus moves you toward your goal.
Do any of these resonate with you?
You may be a genius at creating ideas, but not so great at following through.
Is it hard identifying the next step to take?
You find yourself often starting on projects but only half completing or abandoning them for the next shiny idea?
Do you have a creeping sense of paranoia about making the ‘right choice’, or limiting options, that ends up paralysing you into inaction?
It is hard for you to turn your attention away from social media?
You crave simplicity and a sense of achievement?
If any of this sounds familiar then know that you are not alone. And there are proven strategies and tools that can help.
Coaching is a great way of helping you with focus and holding you gently accountable.
If you have any questions, or would like to set up a free call please email me.
“What I love about Sarah is she is a gifted coach with great instincts, but also she brings fun and warmth to each session. She is my personal cheerleader!”
BAD HABITS AND PHOBIAS
As we grow up we take on behaviours and habits to help us interact with others and navigate life. At their root, most stem from a desire for acceptance and approval, a fear of shame and at its most basic a need for survival.
Phobias often can be traced back to the latter and become hugely magnified.
Habits come from repeated behaviours. When we repeat things often enough they can become automatic.That would be great if we could always choose which habits and thoughts we want to keep and which have outlived their usefulness.
Certain knee-jerk responses become outdated and hold us back. Here are a few examples:
A debilitating fear of public speaking or social events
A need to control things
An almost paralysing fear of change
Resistance to getting close to someone in case you get hurt
Not wanting to fail, so not leaving your comfort zone
Repeating a pattern in a relationship
Eating, or drinking for comfort
A fear of water/spiders/heights/flying/needles/cats that has become a phobia
I have successfully helped many women conquer their fears and change ingrained habits.
If you are ready to change contact me.
WEIGHT, EXERCISE AND HEALTHY MIND-BODY
As a lifestyle coach, I help women achieve a healthy mind and body. Our mind and body are connected. If something in our body is off it affects our mental state. If something in our mind is off-balance our body will tell us. Getting our bodies moving and our minds quiet leads to a happier healthier lifestyle.
We have become used to looking at physical ailments and treating the symptoms but there is a way to deeper more lasting health. Creating a lifestyle that supports a healthy mind and body is a core value of mine. There is nothing I find more rewarding than guiding the women I work with toward a more active lifestyle uniquely designed to work for them.
As we lead longer lives the quality of our life as we age becomes even more important. Hormonal changes such as perimenopause and menopause can play havoc with our minds and bodies. If not kept in check these hormonal ups and downs can lead to unwanted extra lbs, mood swings and disrupted sleep patterns. When you take care of our health there is no question but that we will be happier.
So why is it so very difficult to actually follow through when we know the benefits?
Change often triggers an inner voice to speak up in protest. We tend to believe it and then we stay stuck.
Don’t despair! It is easier than you think to counter that inner gremlin and achieve what had once seemed impossible.
Partnering with a professional lifestyle coach you will:
Define your goal and your blocks
Find a plan that excites you
Guarantee early successes so you get a taste of the end result quickly
Learn mindset and physical tips to manage hormonal ups and downs
Notice and power through any negative narratives that come up
Stay motivated. The process is enjoyable so the changes stick
For help creating a healthier lifestyle please contact me.
Having a sense that your life has purpose gives deep fulfilment. This is one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself.
Coaching provides the tools and insights needed to uncover your unique contribution to life. The direction which will guide you to lead your life in a way that brings flow and happiness.
For some people, this is a specific calling. For many others, it is following a path that aligns with your particular strengths, values and passions.
This area is a particular passion of mine. I have worked with a multitude of amazing women and seen their lives transform as they align their actions with a new direction. This is when we women truly find our voice and express ourselves fully and that brings so much joy. I call it living out loud and it feels great!
Martin Seligman, the founder of Positive Psychology believes the fundamental question for us is do we want to be driven by our past, or pulled toward our future. When you have a clear understanding of what your purpose in life is you are naturally guided and pulled toward your future.
How does coaching help you find your life purpose?
By honing in on the things in life you are naturally drawn toward
Identifying your unique character strengths and values using guided questions and assessments
Figuring out what makes you tick and why
Using visualisation to touch on the wisdom of your future self
Uncovering and neutralising blocks and inner narratives that have made you doubt yourself and held you back
Helping you to start living out your purpose now as your unique path unfolds
If you are ready to reveal your live purpose please contact me.