As you know by now I am a bit of an addict of TED talks. Every now and then when I am doing research I come across threads which I weave together in my head and think ‘Wow!’. Today was one of those days. And that is what I would like to share with you now, fellow Life Liners, because I believe in each one of YOU.
There are sayings that are bandied about, like
“You’ve got to fall down to get up”
“To be the light, first you have to burn”
“Diamonds are made under pressure”
“The only true limitations are those we impose on ourselves”
…you get the picture.
And I believe the gist of these sayings are true. It often takes bumping in to a really big challenge, rejection or tragedy to bring forward the courage to ignite our genius.
There are so many famous examples of this: Vincent Van Gogh, Thomas Edison, Walt Disney, Fred Astaire, Dr. Seuss, Albert Einstein, Winston Churchill, Sidney Poitier, Oprah Winfrey,Michael Jordan. These are some of the famous people. More powerful still for me are the examples I come across of ordinary folk who end up doing extraordinary things. And that was my AHA moment this morning.
I believe a few threads can be extracted from the examples above (and the 2 videos linked below) that we can use in our own lives. And I believe if we can figure out how we will find the freedom and resources to fulfil our unique potential to be wholly, beautifully, powerfully YOU.
So here is my theory:
- You absolutely need to fall. Sometimes that happens because you deliberately jump, some times life gives you a shove. Why do we need to fall? To forcibly shake us out of the comfort zone we constructed from limiting beliefs about what we think we are capable of. When we fall down we force the parachute of our true abilities to open.
- You have to have the will to keep moving forward. Even if moving forward starts off with getting out of bed in the morning. It can take a while for that parachute to open.
- When we fall down, and start to pick ourselves back up, we find ourselves using resources we didn’t know we had, and doing things differently. We didn’t know we had them so we believed we didn’t have themand never tried using them! You see how messed up that is! But it rings true doesn’t it?
- When we have the courage to stop being the person we think we should be, the person we thoughtother people thought we should be, the person limited by the small range of things we think we are capable of…that is where the magic truly happens.
Here are 2 examples of what I am talking about: each woman is struck by a huge challenge, one finds her true self and her dream by fighting (Amy Purdy), one by letting go of an old fight (Caroline Casey). They both have crazy, beautiful dreams, and they both fulfil them.
Here are Some Things to Try:
- Think of a time in your life that you fell; that you failed at something, were rejected, or were struck a blow by life. Looking back what did you learn from it, what was the ‘gift’? Knowing you had hidden resources in that situation can give you the confidence to embrace doing anything differently.
- Every time you catch yourself saying or doing something that you feel is expected of you notice it. What do you really think and feel? Practice.
- Try thinking of something you really want to do? What stands in the way of that? Now try this: believe that you already know how to get there. The weird thing is you probably do but just never realized before, so didn’t try. For instance taking a 2 month break and going to Africa and working in an elephant sanctuary! A yoga retreat in Costa Rica? Or learning how to make jewellery? Or joining a choir?