How many of you out there long for a sense of freedom? And how often to we experience that intoxicating feeling? My theory of freedom is that it is always there – we just allow things to block our view of it. Like clouds blocking the sun when we are the sky.
Something guaranteed to block personal freedom is allowing your mind to dwell on past or present hurts or grievances. These thoughts can hook you in very easily. It almost feels good at the time. Then comes the spiral downwards into regret, bitterness, blame, or even hatred. It can be a seductive route, but there is no happiness to be found there, only the kind of intensity that judgment brings tricking us into feeling something when really it is drowning out freedom.
Scrolling down you will see a visual with various quotes on forgiveness. It is amazing how powerful the right quote at the right can be. It can help you to see something in an entirely different way. And here are some tips I invite you to try.
Three Tips To Shift To Forgiveness
- Start with yourself. There is absolutely no point in holding on to things from the past and blaming yourself. Self-shaming serves no purpose. You made the best decision you could at the time. Why wouldn’t you? We all do it, but do yourself a favour and move on. In this link is a lovely reminder from Brene Brown that will help shift your perspective.
- Think of a time in your life from which you are still harbouring anger or blame toward someone else. It may still hurt, it may seem unforgivable. In my experience, these kinds of events often come from a place where the other person felt the need to exert power over you. Why? Most likely because they felt threatened or vulnerable. When I look at it from this different angle it allows my feelings to shift. Forgiveness is an act of strength that neutralises the negative power it held over you
- When you step back and think about it, everything in life comes from one of two places: LOVE or FEAR. Love feels good and ultimately brings freedom. Few good things come from a place of fear